Dealing with frustrations.

“For He has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; He has not hidden His face from him but has listened to his cry for help.” Psalms 22:24

Life comes with a lot of frustrations. Learning to deal with these frustrations in a healthy way is hard. I struggle daily to help my boys learn how to deal with them, when I myself was never taught this wonderful tool.

As humans we all tend to yell, get mad, throw fits, etc. That seems to be the first reaction to anything that upsets us. It starts out as small children. Should this continue on into adulthood? I don’t think so. Though I don’t think it’s something that can be punished away with spankings and such. It’s something that needs to be guided. Though it’s hard to remember that grace is for mama’s to when I throw my fits and hurt someone with my words or actions.

I think the biggest mistake we make is not turning to Jesus first. We try to fix everything ourselves instead of turning to our Heavenly Father to help us through our problem. Like today, when teaching my oldest his reading lesson, I started to get really frustrated with him. He knew what he was doing and it wasn’t right. He wanted me to just give him all the answers because it was easier that way. We all know that’s not how we learn. We do have to solve things without someone else giving us the solution sometimes. He won’t learn to read with me just telling him everything. Well, instead of taking a deep breath and saying a quick prayer, I chose to react and yell at him. This also won’t teach him to read and caused him to think badly of himself. I apologized and we moved on, though I hope it doesn’t stay with him for much longer.

This is my point. Instead of turning to Jesus and asking for some patience, I took matters into my own hands and blew the whole issue out of proportion. Today I will focus on my relationship with my Father first. Then when issues arrise I will be able to handle them appropriately, and when I slip up there is God’s wonderful grace there for me.