The Definition of "Risk"
I’m trying to be patient. I really am. But when people can’t even understand a concept so basic as “risk”…well, it becomes rather difficult.
Risk is the possibility of an event occuring. When I say there is a risk of such-and-such, I don’t mean that it will happen. I mean there is a possibility that it will happen.
So the fact that it didn’t happen to your sister/mother/friend/etc is, I’m sorry to say, really quite irrelevant.
There are risks associated with epidurals. There are risks associated with being induced. There are risks associated with medical tests. With formula. With babies watching television. With vaccines. With leaving a baby to cry alone. There simply are.
I just want people to think. To have all the knowledge they need to make an informed decision. Not to necessarily make the same decision I would – just to make an informed one. Maybe for you the benefit is worth the risk, while for me it isn’t. That’s fine – just be willing to recognize that the risk exists in the first place! I can respect that sort of decision. What I can’t respect is the poor logic of “such-and-such didn’t happen to so-and-so, therefore there is no risk”, or, perhaps even worse, “it won’t happen to me.”
Those two statements are so hurtful in the way they completely disqualify and invalidate the experiences of all those to whom it did happen. So it didn’t happen to your sister – that doesn’t mean it won’t happen to you. That doesn’t mean it hasn’t already happened to countless numbers of other women. Show some respect for those women – recognize that the risk exists. Just recognize that it exists.